6/09/2009

Summer Road Trips : Outer Banks Pt 1

We are fortunate to have the tradition on my husband's side of the family to vacation each year in the Outer Banks of North Carolina . (We go other places as well, but are always in the OBX at some point in the summer, like the swallows return to Capistrano each year.) When people ask me, "Are you going anywhere this summer?" and I tell them where, I often end up having to explain myself, for this is not a common destination for Texans. Most natives will take a vacation in the Rockies, San Antonio, or South Padre - places closer to home - or else go as far away as possible and head to Florida, Hawaii, South America or Europe. Hubster's family hails from the mid-Atlantic area, Pennsylvania and Washington DC mostly, and people there tend to go to the Outer Banks if they don't want a long journey. The OBX are the closest beach areas that are clean and pleasant and family friendly. Sure, there are boardwalk beach towns all up and down the Jersey-Delaware-Maryland coastlines, but these have evolved into the places one goes for a day trip, to eat hotdogs and play pachinko machines, rather than a destination to stay for days or weeks at a time. Many have heard of Hilton Head or Myrtle Beach, and the Outer Banks are very similar to these places; they just happen to be off the coast of North Carolina.

The Outer Banks are a string of barrier islands off the coast of North Carolina that were largely uninhabited (a few small towns do exist, mostly on the mainland) until very recently. When hubster's family first started going there, in the late 80's and early 90's, wild ponies still roamed freely in many spots and schools of dolphins swam by at regular intervals. Hubster's mother actually owned a beach house there until fairly recently. All the development is fairly new (no charming old Victorian homes, and even the few rattier vacation cabins from the 1950's have been torn down and modern, larger beach houses built in their place). Driving up and down the main drag, HWY 12, one gets a sense of large-ish single family homes, (which people rent by the week), a few scattered hotels, stores, country clubs and restaurants, and that's about it. It is not as exclusive as the Hamptons, but the beach houses tend to be large-ish (4 to 10 bedrooms) and full of all the modern amenities : pools, hot tubs, spas, tennis courts. Unlike Texas, where folks can drive on the beach (means broken glass and oil stains in the sand- whose great idea was that ?), the beaches in the Outer Banks are largely accessible only to the people who are renting the beach houses or staying at a particular hotel or apt. Which means they tend to be uncrowded.

There are a few touristy things to do - visit light houses, play putt-putt golf, visit Jockey Ridge State Park or the Wright Brothers National Monument, play some tennis, get a massage or a pedicure, visit a local historical theme park and take in the play about the first colony of settlers, aka "The Lost Colony", about the group that mysteriously disappeared with nothing but the strange word "Croatoan" carved into a tree as a clue. (Trivia note : Andy Griffith and many others got their start acting in this play.) There are little shops, which mostly sell t-shirts and souvenirs and knick-knacks to bored moms who need a break from the kids for an afternoon. Over the years, we have pretty much done it all. One doesn't go to the Outer Banks to DO anything, one goes to relax and get away from it all.
Here is a bigger map to look at ; each family has their own favorite areas. My husband's family prefers the Corolla area, but lots of different people have their own favorites. We have a couple of special spots, little neighborhoods that we prefer, that are less crowded and more picturesque . I'm sworn under a family blood oath not to reveal where they are.
It is our family tradition to go once each summer - the dates we select vary, depending on whatever else is going on at the time. June is lovely and rarely crowded at all, but the water in the ocean can still be too cold to swim ( important for my kids.) July is "high season" and the rental prices reflect that, but the ocean warms up enough to truly enjoy the beach by that point. Of course, since we are Texans, we have to go back to school in early August, unlike other east-coast folk who don't start till after Labor Day or later, so that means August is not really an option for us. When we lived in northern Virginia, we'd also drive down for weekends and holidays, but it takes us now 2 and 1/2 days to get there from Texas, so that is not really workable for us any more. The cross- country journey to get to the OBX is all part of the fun for my family - yes, most people would fly and rent a car somewhere closer, although there aren't any major hubs nearby - but we have our special "road food" places we simply MUST stop and eat at, all along the way. (Many involving various awesome BBQ joints spread across the south, in a veritable map of meal hopping ecstasy.) We also have some good friends we traditionally visit, on our way back, and would never get to see, any other way. I complain about it a lot ( mostly the having to spend a week with my in-laws part) but overall, it is a fun vacation that I wouldn't miss.


Want general info about the Outer Banks ?
Want to see how much the beach houses rent for, what they look like, etc ? (And yes, many are wheelchair accessible). There are many different rental companies; this is the one we use.
http://www.kittydunes.com/

Little bit of trivia : The movie "Weekend at Bernie's", which is theoretically set in the Hamptons, was actually filmed in the Outer Banks. Watching it again for the first time in 20 years, I was struck by the vast sweeps of open space, the distance between homes in this movie. Not so any more.

Summer Road Trips : Outer Banks Pt 2


Our Outer Banks vacations have a rhythm to them that is comforting in its familiarity. The kids always have a great time at the beach and spend most hours of the day or night there; I can't even get them away long enough to go play video games or putt-putt golf ( a nice change from their normal existence). Beaches here are made up of miles and miles of clean white sand, no weeds or swamp or sea grass underneath to give your feet that slimy feeling. The water is clear with rarely any jellyfish. The waves are great for surfing, both long board and short, boogie boarding, or just playing around and body surfing (my personal fave since I tend to become entangled in the cord as the wave flips me close to shore. Rarely can I ride that crest smoothly, all the way in.) It is always that perfect temperature : refreshingly cool, but not too cold.

There is plenty of time to relax, talk, read a good book, nap, or think. Just listening to the waves all day and night is enough to reduce most people's blood pressure. I always bring a stack of books and alternate between swimming and reading.

If you need a break from all that sun, sand, and surf, there is always a light house to visit, some shopping, or ice cream to be had. (Corolla Light in the background, it is the only unpainted light house on the NC coast.) There are companies that will take you deep sea fishing, places to learn hang gliding, services that will teach you horseback riding on the beach or take you in a helicopter to tour the area by air - I can't get anyone to go with me !

It is a tradition in hubster's family, as it is with many who come to the Outer Banks, to make the week at the beach into a family reunion of sorts. The beach houses are large ( 3 stories, 4 bedrooms are the small ones) and it makes sense to pack 'em full of folks. We often have 10-12 or more people staying with us. Here hubster's family share the traditional crab and seafood dinner we eat at least once during this trip.
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So if you are tempted to ask me what we do at the beach - well, folk, this is it. It is a lovely tradition ; my kids are spoiled by having this to look forward to each summer. We haven't been yet this year, (these photos are from previous visits. Last year's trip is under North Carolina, "The Great American Vacation" in the side bar index). Check back in early Aug to see this year's pix.





6/08/2009

Lavender

I spent this morning harvesting the lavender in my backyard garden....in theory, it is supposed to bloom in late June, (there is a Lavender Festival coming up in Blanco, near Austin, next weekend, and there was one in Gainesville, 2 weeks ago) but you never know when all the buds will "pop" (depends on the weather for weeks surrounding this event) and you've got to be ready to cut them at their peak of blooming. They smell so wonderful; fresh yet not too sweet. I love to just make simple bouquets and hang them in the linen closet. Lavender seems to be one of the few things I can grow well - I am not a great gardener by any means - and it seems to do well in the climate of Texas, which is hot and dry. I started out with six little plants in 2006, each one in a 4" pot, and now they are great big bushes, 3 feet tall and have completely filled a 10 ft wide flower bed. I love it so much, and feel successful at it, so I think I will expand to another spot in the yard and grow more. Just need to find a sunny well drained spot. (FYI: I planted French lavender, which seems particularly suited to the climate here.)
Some people say all the bees have left north Texas and many other spots; folk are worried about the hive blight going around. My younger son plays violin, and we get his instrument serviced at a mom and pop string maker, called the Luthier Shop in Crossroads, Tx, and these guys also raise their own bees (for the beeswax, a crucial ingredient to string players.) They speak frequently about the dearth of bees lately. All I know is, plenty of bees were feeding in my lavender this morning. Perhaps the secret is to provide them with something they enjoy, and the ones that are left will come to you.

I first became a devotee of lavender when I went to Provence in 2006, and got to experience the blooming season there at the famous monastery of Senanque. A photo doesn't really capture how fabulous it is to experience that much lavender blooming.....walking out into the lavender rows, not only does it smell divine, but the plants seem to have an electromagnetic current running through them, you can feel the faint humming vibration of it all around you, within you. Turns out to be caused by millions of pairs of bees' wings, beating together, for the lavender is filled with bees everywhere, buzzing here and there, gathering nectar. They leave you alone; I have never been stung, as long as you respect them and let them do their job. It is truly something that has to be seen and experienced.
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In France, they make all kinds of products out of lavender : soap, candles, sachets, perfume, honey, liquor, food. I have eaten vanilla ice cream drizzled with lavender liquor and it was divine. Perhaps that will be my next project.






Huswifery, or How I Spend my Summer Vacation


There is a famous poem, from the earliest years of American literature, by the Puritan poet Edward Taylor that goes something like this :



Huswifery
Make me, O Lord, thy Spinning Wheele compleat;
Thy Holy Worde my Distaff make for mee.
Make mine Affections thy Swift Flyers neate,
And make my Soule thy holy Spoole to bee.
My Conversation make to be thy Reele,
And reele the yarn thereon spun of thy Wheele.
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Make me thy Loome then, knit therein this Twine:
And make thy Holy Spirit, Lord, winde quills:
Then weave the Web thyselfe. The yarn is fine.
Thine Ordinances make my Fulling Mills.
Then dy the same in Heavenly Colours Choice,
All pinkt with Varnish't Flowers of Paradise.
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Then cloath therewith mine Understanding, Will,
Affections, Judgment, Conscience, Memory;
My Words and Actions, that their shine may fill
My wayes with glory and thee glorify.
Then mine apparell shall display before yee
That I am Cloathd in Holy robes for glory.

While I don't necessarily share the religious sentiments of this poem, I do appreciate the notion that simple tasks of a domestic nature can provide one with a meditation on more divine things. I also know that my life runs more smoothly when my home is in order. During the school year, things are too chaotic - always dashing here and there, with nary a moment to think - and my house reflects it : piles of clothing (clean and dirty), shoes, umbrellas, backpacks, books, papers, everywhere. It is hideous, and not tranquil at all. We reached a new personal low on Saturday night, when some friends wanted to pop in unexpectedly to see us, and son #1 was packing to go away for 3 weeks, his stuff all over the den; and neither hubster nor I had been home all day - son #2 had been roving with gangs of 13 year olds, eating junk food and leaving wrappers everywhere. I think our domestic scene frightened our visitors, a young couple about to be married, into never, ever having children at all. I hope they didn't call off the wedding....it scared even me.
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Sure, I have Ina, who comes on Wednesdays and scrubs the kitchen and bathrooms, vacuums, makes beds, straightens the everlasting pile of crap on the den coffee table ( where to put it, really ? all that stuff is important: permission slips for kid events, bills to be paid, receipts, rubber bands, coupons, a few of hubster's important work papers, a calculator, some pens, the phone, the phone book, all swirled around together- all the "junk"drawers are too full!). Bless her, Ina even dusts the book cases ( in every room ) in rotation. But for a really deep cleaning, what some call a "spring" cleaning, I rely on summer vacation. It is traditionally the first activity I do as summer begins.
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I generally, start off, a room (or closet) at a time, sorting and culling ( collecting trash bags of stuff for Good Will, the trash, garage sales, etc), washing, cleaning, folding, organizing. I don't really enjoy this, but I enjoy the end result. Tell myself, one room a day.....and in a month, I'll be done (16 rooms plus 8 walk in closets and a pantry) .I drag a tool kit with me, and repair things as I find them.... and I keep a pad and pencil with me as I go, making lists of stuff to buy (giant storage bins ! new ironing board cover, large zip bags, shelf paper, more pillow cases, cleaning supplies, new photo frames for den) or do ( replace blinds in kitchen, paint master bathroom, replace throw rug in hallway, etc).
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Once started, I am good to go...and often work all night long. It is difficult for me to get started, however.....this morning I putzed around in my garden for awhile. Now I am taking a break to write this......gotta .....get back......to work.......

6/05/2009

Random Facebook Quiz


This quiz from Facebook was called "First Share"

1. Who was your FIRST prom date?
Went to 2 proms at once, on the same night ! Both Richardson HS annd JJ Pearce HS ( rival schools, both proms held on the same night, on different floors of the same hotel) with my Jr High bf Bill (I went to RHS, he went to PHS) and my best gf Judy and his best guy friend Kevin

2. Do you still talk to your FIRST love?
Yes, Bill, most days

3. What was your 1st alcoholic drink?
A margarita from Chili's. I think I was 15. (Sh! Don't tell my kids!)

4. What was your FIRST job?
Worked the cash register at Jack-In-the-Box on Preston at Valley View mall - followed closely by sales clerk at Sears and Sanger-Harris , both at VV mall in Dallas

5. What was your FIRST car?
1974 Duster, blue (No, I was not Daisy Duke ! )

6. Who was the FIRST person to text you today?
My son, Tommy

7. Who is the FIRST person you thought of this morning?
My son, Will ( he is away at science camp for 3 weeks and I miss him !)

8. Who was your FIRST grade teacher?
Mrs Green. She was ancient but kindly. I still remember some little boy named Jonathan who sat near me and pooped in his pants every day.

9. Where did you go on your FIRST ride on an airplane?
Houston, to visit Mark at Rice and to party !

10. Who was your FIRST best friend & do you still talk?
Monica, and I am so happy to have finally found her on facebook

11. Where was your FIRST sleep over?
can't remember - does my grandmother's house count ?

12. Who was the FIRST person you talked to today?
My dogs !

13. Whose wedding were you in the FIRST time?
My cousin, Barbara's.

14. What was the FIRST thing you did this morning?
Flipped on the coffee machine

15. What was the FIRST concert you ever went to?
Tex Jam at the Cotton Bowl

16. FIRST tattoo?
None yet, but came very close to getting the evil eye ( also known as a wadjet or oudja eye) tattoed onto my arm in the backroom of a bar named Waddi Razzuk's in the old quarter, Jerusalem, late one night in July 1981

17. First piercing?
Ears

18. First foreign country you've been to?
Does Mexico count ? After that, then England.

19. FIRST movie you remember seeing?
"If It's Tuesday, It Must Be Belgium" ( oddly prophetic)

20. When was your FIRST detention?
7th grade, the art teacher gave me one for glue on the desk - and it wasn't my desk, or my glue! Only one I ever was given.

21. What was the first state you lived in?
Texas

22. Who was your FIRST roommate?
Alice Mao

23. If you had one wish. What would it be?
To wish for more wishes !

24. What is something you would learn if you had the chance?
Well, my therapist says I need to let go and realize I can't do it all, control it all, fix it all. I need to be more zen.

25. Who do you think will be the next person to post this?
Who cares? If I am more zen, I'll just let it be, see what happens, where it takes me.....